Many people who transition from orthodox Mormonism to either post or nuanced positions often revisit their sexual development journey as a youth and young adult. They often feel like many decisions were co-opted by the standards of the Church and are dealing with grief, anger, feelings of betrayal and the “what if?” syndrome. These “what if’s?” can be a normal part of the grief cycle and yet can also interfere with moving forward in sexually healthy ways. This session will address some of the common “what if’s?” that people deal with, as well as some strategies to move into healthier paradigms.