A rather random comment from my not-Mormon brother-in-law was a catalyst in changing my feelings about raising my children in the church. He said something to the effect of: 'I would never allow my daughter to participate in an organization or an institution that discriminated against her because she's a girl.' What he said kept popping into my mind as we were in the midst of preparing for our son's ordination to the priesthood and I was privately mourning the fact that my daughter wouldn't experience a similar ritual.
I realized that while I could handle the many ways in which I felt discriminated against by the institutional Church because of my gender, it was much more painful for me to see my children participating in the patriarchal Church system. I could also see that it wasn’t a good ‘fit’ for their personalities. For example, my son was apathetic about assuming the expected priesthood role and didn’t care for Boy Scouts. My daughter ambivalently attended Achievement Day activities where the girls painted their fingernails and learned babysitting skills. And my spouse and I frequently found ourselves explaining to our kids that we didn’t believe all of the stuff that they learned in their Primary lessons.
So for those of you who are raising your children in the Church and find yourselves at odds with some of its practices and teachings, do you teach your children what you believe and discourage them from participating in the church activities that you find objectionable? Or do you hide your dissenting feelings/beliefs from your children?